This guest post is by Christy, an adoptive mother and creator of the “We Match Hearts” wallpost. My heart was broken when I found out I wouldn’t be able to carry a child. I’d gone through so much physically, and I wanted so badly to be a mother. My amazing husband took me in his arms and said we would adopt. Our oldest daughter was born about a year later. We went to the hospital just a few hours after
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Unplanned Pregnancy? A Birthmom On Why Consider Open Adoption
If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and researching your open adoption options, you may be having second thoughts about your plan now that you’ve gone online. It seems that nearly every website, blog or story that’s considered “pro adoption” contains some negative comment or warning about what will happen to you or your child if you decide to go ahead with your placement plan. What may be surprising is that some of the harshest comments come from birthmothers themselves.
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An Open And Honest Conversation About Open Adoption On Our Social Networks
Stacy Coleman and I have never met. But the other day I discovered that we share something in common. As part of a special series we’re running every day this month on our Facebook page, I sent out a tweet asking our followers how their perception of open adoption has changed over the years. Within minutes, Stacy tweeted back: “I was THAT Adoptive Mom who said ‘get our baby & run!’ I’ve recently launched #ThreeStrands to Serve BirthMoms! Complete 180.” Boy,
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An Open Adoption Success Story, By Any Other Name
Meet Rebekah, Tyrus’s mother. Not Rebekah, Tyrus’s other mother. Confused? Don’t be. Rebekah is Tyrus’s birthmother. He has another mother, also named Rebekah. She’s his adoptive mother. Kinda cool, don’t you think? Rebekah thinks so. She was raising four children when she placed Tyrus for adoption with the other Rebekah and her husband, Ben, just over four years ago. As she wrote at the time, “I don’t think that this means that I am a horrible person…but I think it
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7 Ways To Conquer Your Fear That A Prospective Birthmother Won’t Choose You
Maybe it was because Halloween was just around the corner. Or maybe it was because of something else. But for whatever reason, Cassie was scared. She was worried that she and her husband wouldn’t get chosen by a prospective birthmother, putting an end to her lifelong dream of becoming a parent. Never mind that she hadn’t even sent her adoption profile out yet. The worst case scenarios were already piling up in her mind. “What if the birthmother doesn’t find
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I Just Placed My Baby For Adoption: How It Feels, What Has Helped
These last few months have been busy for Gen. She’s a full-time student, a part-time hostesses and caterer, and as of May, a new birthmother in a very open adoption.
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The Secret To Getting Your Adoption Profile Noticed By A Potential Birthmother
A hopeful adoptive parent recently asked me to help her and her husband get their adoption profile noticed by a potential birthmother. They had been “out there,” online, for four years but their profile wasn’t getting a lot of traction. They wondered what were they doing wrong, and what else they could do, to set themselves apart and catch the attention of an expectant mother who was thinking about placing her baby for adoption. It’s a question that every couple
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A Birthmother On Why Adoption Is “The Most Beautiful Pain You Could Ever Choose”
Crystal Rae didn’t know what she was getting into when she placed her baby for adoption 12 years ago. And though her decision didn’t come easily, she recently told us that her experience has been better than she ever imagined. I’ll let her tell you why, in her own words, in a moment. But first, some background information about her: Crystal Rae is a surgical assistant and TV Host in Cave Creek, Arizona.
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When Other Couples Are Finding An Online Adoption Match — And You’re Not
Is your adoption profile online? Do you find yourself checking it a millions time a day? Do you find yourself checking out other people’s profiles a million times a day? When checking out other people’s profiles, do you find your heart sink every time you see the words “Matched” splashed across their photo? Welcome to the club. When I was adopting, checking out other couples wasn’t simply something I did to pass the time. It was an obsession.
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Does Giving Up My Baby For Adoption Make Me A Bad Person?
If you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption, chances are you’ve got some pretty big questions weighing on your mind right now. Am I doing the right thing? How do I know I’m not making a mistake? Will I regret my decision later? And probably Does giving up my baby make me a bad person? Giving up a baby for adoption is probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do. The fact you’re wresting with your decision not only speaks to the