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  • Being Contacted By Prospective Birthmothers: What I’ve Learned

    This guest post is by Don, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. My wife and I started our adoption journey approximately a year ago.  During this time we’ve been contacted five times by prospective birth moms.  Unfortunately none of these contacts worked out for various reasons beyond our control.  I am not sure how typical this experience is for couples pursuing open adoption, but

  • Manifesting Destiny: Gay Fatherhood Through Open Adoption

    This guest post is by Casey Cavalier, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. I came out during The Reagan Years. I was twenty-years-old and parenthood was not at the forefront of my mind. This was not because I was young. It was because most gay men in those days did not see fatherhood or marriage as a possibility. Our community was fighting the AIDS

  • A Prospective Adoptive Dad: What Father’s Day Means To Me

    This guest post is by Ethan Curtis, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. On Father’s Day this year, my wife and I will celebrate like we do every year. We’ll both call our fathers and wish them a great day, then we’ll go out and barbecue with some close friends who have children. Father’s day tends to have special meaning for my wife and

  • Free: A Birthfather’s Story

    This post is by Shane Lynen, a birthfather who blogs at Northern Lights. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. Open and honest.  That’s a phrase which has been used around our house a lot in the past 13 months.  We have used that phrase as the base for every discussion in that time.  We made a commitment to be open and honest with everyone in this

  • Adoption Isn’t Just About Mothers — Dads Are Expecting, Too!

    This post is by Josh, a hopeful adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. I’ve always had positive feelings toward adoption. For one reason or another, I just always assumed I would have biological kids. However, I can’t say I’ve ever had a drive to have a little one with my DNA. While reproduction is supposedly an innate drive, my interest in becoming a father

  • Why Our Adoption Was Meant To Be

    This guest post is by Scott Phelps, an adoptive father. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. It was a Wednesday afternoon in Tucson, Arizona and my wife, Kala, was up in Prescott Valley taking our son’s birthmother “A” to a doctor’s appointment. My wife and I were very fortunate to have gotten to know “A” and develop a relationship with her. All day I had been

  • My Dream To Become An Adoptive Daddy

    This guest post is by Tim Elder, an adoptive father and founder of the Infant Adoption Guide. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. This is the dream of thousands of men every year, and it was my dream too — to adopt a newborn and finally become a daddy. I have to admit that adoption wasn’t the way I thought my wife and I would grow our family

  • How We Created An Adoptive Family Of Two Fathers

    This guest post is by Steven G. Dubin, an adoptive father and adoption attorney. It is part of A Dad’s Devotion, a month-long series of original stories related to adoption, fatherhood and Father’s Day. When we think about adoption and Father’s Day, it brings a flood of memories.  Our own, and memories created by our clients, which we have been privileged to share. Our first two-dad family walked through our office doors well over a dozen years ago. They were

  • Birthmother’s Day, Mother’s Day and Adoption: What I Learned In May

    What does May mean to you? For many people, May is synonymous with Mother’s Day — a time to celebrate mothers and motherhood. But for members of the adoption constellation, Mother’s Day — and Birthmother’s Day — is a bittersweet occasion, filled with mixed emotions of love, longing and loss.

  • My Adopting Story: Everything Happens For A Reason

    For many adoptive parents, building a family through adoption is the best thing that ever happened to them. But experiencing the joy of adoption is one thing. Sharing it with the rest of the world is another. Adoption is, for the most part, a private matter, one that touches on a lot of intimidate and sometimes uncomfortable personal details and truths. No wonder so many adoptive parents are content to just go on with their lives and put their journey